Hi there,
I am sitting here quietly with Tom. He has not been awake or aware since earlier today.
Thursday night I came to sit with him after my shift ended – he was in a lot of pain, but aware and awake. I sat with him and held his hand as they gave him his pain meds and waited for them to kick in promising him that if he just closed his eyes to rest he would get relief soon – his response to me was “I want to see beauty, I want you to be the last thing I see before I go.” That will stick with me for the rest of my life because that truly was the last time his eyes have been open. He has heard my voice, but not opened his eyes since then.
Once Tom and I got to know one another he became my biggest fan – bragging about me to anyone who would listen. Much to the dismay of many, I am sure – LOL . He never missed a chance to tell me what he thought of me or how he felt about me and I will forever be grateful to him for that. I simply cared for him the way he deserved and he made it rather easy – at least most of the time- LOL. We have only been in one another’s lives for 5 years, but it has been a privilege and a blessing. I am a true believer that people come into our lives when we need them the most – my life has been made better having had the chance to know him .
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Dear Wendy,
We have never met, but that does not mean that you have not touched my life, and the lives of the others who are part of the community that TC crated.
You, obviously, connected with him a marvelous way, and helped him when he most needed help. You have my unending gratitude for that.
Thank you.
Mitch
Bless you for all the ways you rose to the occasion Wendy. I visited with TC the Dec. after his hospital stay with his amputation largely because I was concerned about him receiving adequate and reliable care giving (and other needed services). You ensured I have not had that worry for years. Your reporting tells me you gave him the journey home that he sought–a major gift. I will pray for you as you go through this transition in your life.
Thank you, Wendy, for all that you have done for Tom. Said. Wrote. Prayed about. Informed us about. Wished and Hoped for wellness about TC. For your thoughts, and for your prayers. For keeping us up-to-date about Tom. You’re a true Blessing.
I’m so grateful to you, and for your caring.
Thank YOU! Wendy.
TC was one of the first people on Care2 that I followed. Even though I never met him I feel like I have lost a good friend. I also feel like I know all of you who worked with him and took care of him.
I knew this day would come, but it was still a shock when I read the news this morning. His suffering has ended and at least that is a good thing. His journey now continues…
Robert B.
The Multiverse is an incomprehensible math mystery of uncountable equations
A hologram of unimaginable scope. Within the Quantum field or beyond are equations
that form energy, matter, life and conscious thought.
We are such complex equations. All life is a mathematical creation that forms a
Presence in the physical plane. We are here to evolve. When we die, we are still
part of the Mathematical Mystery we tend to refer to as God or the Devine Creative power,
waiting for another physical form with which to continue our journey.
We are self-correcting equations that continue to improve for the purpose of
Becoming Pure Devine Love.
Tom Cat is now on his Magnificent journey…..
Farewell Thomas Youngman Seving, my friend!
Dear Wendy,
We’ve never met, but I’ve read so much of you from TC’s posts and I know how much you meant to him. I’ve known him for a bit longer but not nearly so well. I thank you for the loving care you’ve given him. I share everyone’s grief at his passing, and yours. It’s cliche, but he’s seeing beauty now too, I absolutely know it. Thank you. Blessed be, Tom, rest my friend, we’ll all be together again. :^) gene
Thank you, Gene. Hope you are well, my friend.
Dear Wendy,
Like all others mentioned, we’ve never met you, but ever since you became Tom’s caregiver throughout these five years, you’ve become a part of our family. Tom would write us telling us when you were on your way over, cooking, cleaning, when you’d be stopping by to drop food or medications, bathe him, and even when you’d be going on mini vacations. He’d be so happy when you were coming back from these trips. He missed you so much.
You were like family to him. You did so very much for Tom. Even these past couple of months, checking out his new place, fighting for him with the home nurses, insurance, etc. Now, staying with him till his last moments which made it easier for Tom knowing you were there holding his hand.
You indeed was his Angel. I can’t “Thank you” enough for all you’ve ever done for Tom.
I know that this is hard on you too. Losing someone you’ve become so close to. I pray that you’re doing okay.
We all know Tom is at Peace now. No more pain and suffering. On his new peaceful journey.
Thanks again Wendy. God Bless you and your family. Love, Colleen
Thank you, Wendy, and condolences on your loss….may your memories and friendship give you strength