I’m writing for tomorrow, day 178. Yesterday’s CoDA meeting was excellent. We talked about how poor self esteem leads to codependent relationships, I told the guys how we can use a “stop thought” technique followed by “positive self-talk”, when we encounter scripts we learned growing up, such as: “You’re no good!”, “You’ll always be a failure!”, “You’re rotten!”, etc. I talked about how our “authentic selves” like ourselves. This morning I had to clean house for grocery delivery. In less than 24 hours, my email had accumulated over 300 requests for money for me to delete. I slept for a few hours, but IO clearly need more sleep.
Jig Zone Puzzle:
Today’s took me 2:56 (average 4:24). To do it, click here. How did you do?
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3:03 TC outshone me with his sunny attitude.
3:28 The sun(flower) got in my eyes.
3:16 Good thing that sunflowers are cheery and "sunny" because here it is pouring rain!
Glad you're resting up as there are only 19 days left until the Republicanus/Teabaggers get dumped on their asses! Now that will be a most sunny day!
Thanks, but Jig Zone needs to feed me some MEAT!
5:00 average unchanged. I guess that's the time to get a picture of a large sunflower. By the time the seeds are black it's upside down.
Self esteem is all about truth, isn't it? Like so much else in life. "Too much self esteem" isn't really too much self esteem, it's pure fantasy – as is lack of self esteem. It also appears to be another thing Republicans think is just for them, as in the Daily Kos article in yesterday's Open Thread. Well, sure. If you have no self esteem, you are less likely to vote, for one thing.
I get all those requests for money too. Hey, yesterday was the last FEC reporting deadline before the actual election, so it was predictable. When you are trying to stay up to date, and sign petitions for important things, it happens.
I hope you get some actual rest. Not all sack time is really restful, I find.
Absolutely gorgeous photo of you TC!
I have a favourite book called 'Kitchen Table Wisdom' by Rachel Naomi Remen that I re-read periodically – she was a surgeon and has experienced extreme ill health with countless operations herself, and has been a counsellor to people having trouble with all sorts of bad illnesses for many years. Often she finds at the root of the illness are things said and done to people in childhood – like 'you are useless' etc – one big, confident sucessful rancher had been a sickly child, requiring a lot of his mother's attention to survive, and his father had said that if the sick boy was a calf he would have left it on the prairie to die! There was a lot more to the story, but the rancher came to see Rachel Remen as he had terminal cancer (if memory serves me right) – as she gently got him to talk about his life and his childhood, after several sessions she eventually felt led to ask him if he wanted to die to please his father or live to please himself – which shocked him rather. Then he looked at his feet and said quietly 'I want to live' – and she asked him if he could say that while looking her in the face – and hesitantly then firmly he said 'I want to live!' – and he lived for several more years, and (presumably) much happier than before. (Please forgive any mistakes in the retelling of this story – I am ill!).
It seems many of us can have immense stresses put on us by things said to us, particularly in childhood – or by people we value highly, just as you are showing your guys, TC – but they need not define us and how we live our lives! Good for you for showing your chaps the way to move forward and out into a better future!
((You got HOW many requests for money in 24 hours? Good grief, I thought I got a lot, but not compared to you! At the moment everything I can spare is going to Medecins Sans Frontieres for their fight against Ebola.)).
I hope you feel better.
30 of those requests are from the DCCC!
Rand Paul shared this tidbit about Ebola with the Associate Producer of CNN's Political Unit:
https://twitter.com/KilloughCNN/status/522770302506659840
If Rand Paul is attending cocktail parties with a bunch of febrile folks spewing vomitus on each other or sharing “bodily fluids” maybe – just maybe – Rand should attend better cocktail parties.
Would you really be surprised if he were attending those types of parties? I wouldn't.
If there are Ebola parties, maybe they will send Idiot, Son of Idiot, Named after Idiot, an invitation!! 😉
I continue my policy of not mentioning how long it took me to do the puzzle – I have this thing about embarrassing myself in public.
300 requests for money?? Wow, and I thought I got a lot of them.
Anybody else notice that the tone of the requests is much different this time around? Lots of doom and gloom and guilt tripping. Too bad the requests can't be replied to. I'd have some choice words for the next huckster who told me the world was going to end if I didn't kick in 5 dollars or whatever within the next 60 seconds.
What really sets me off is when I get a request like this from a Republican !!! How did I ever get on that mailing list?.
John, I think I can answer that. Never sign well meaning but stupid petitions that begin Tell Mitch McConnell to…, tell John Boehner to.. , or similar, unless they are your Representative or Senator. They won't give a damn what you want, but they will add you to their spam list.
I quit signing petitions a long time ago, and regularly unsubscribe from mailing lists. Doesn't seem to help much.
Internet Dictionary
Unsubscribe: v. to submt a request for more SPAM.
I have found that verb to work like that too – so now I just delete them!
Are the rest of you getting requests for $3.00 or $5.00? I have about twenty of those every day. Maybe they know I am poor.
TC, I wish you could talk to one of my nephews. He was not wanted by his mother and she tormented him from the time he was a baby. He has been in and out of trouble all his life and cannot hold a job. He has such low self esteem that he expects to be dealt a low blow and often sees them when they are not there. My sister and I have tried to help him all his life,but could never get him past the destruction his mother caused.
Sure That's how they do it. They are hoping pedople will think $3 or $5 isn't much. and donate emotrionally and frequently, eventually donating far more than they would have otherwise.
Email me.
Thanks, I will.